tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1636364949017025470.post1937683141726150403..comments2024-03-08T07:03:12.909-05:00Comments on Life at Willow Manor: never apologizeTess Kincaidhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04889725786678984293noreply@blogger.comBlogger109125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1636364949017025470.post-56941539477743332432010-02-25T12:27:13.489-05:002010-02-25T12:27:13.489-05:00This is a very inspirational post for me. Thank y...This is a very inspirational post for me. Thank you for sharing your insights and beliefs. I see myself in your description. Although for the most part, people I deal with daily do not say "sorry" enough, i.e. do not take responsibility for their actions. But, sometimes the most worthy diminish themselves with their sorries.Jenniferhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16187999748785622735noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1636364949017025470.post-42858943214522499262010-02-23T06:23:24.539-05:002010-02-23T06:23:24.539-05:00A very worthy list.
I have a feeling that I'm ...A very worthy list.<br />I have a feeling that I'm not the only person who felt like this post was speaking directly to me.Beehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02375981493145612394noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1636364949017025470.post-38866889886346248552010-02-21T09:34:27.213-05:002010-02-21T09:34:27.213-05:00I'm with you on all 12 counts. BTW, congrats o...I'm with you on all 12 counts. BTW, congrats on the Goddess Award!Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16813508472498593787noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1636364949017025470.post-90567752346658022932010-02-20T23:44:17.366-05:002010-02-20T23:44:17.366-05:00Goodness Gracious Me! I think this is possibly the...Goodness Gracious Me! I think this is possibly the longest lists of responses I've ever added to! You deserve all the credit, you have a wonderful spirit.<br /><br />Great insight and writing. Included you in my 'Posts Of The Week.'cleobytheseaohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03203708619119849353noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1636364949017025470.post-3456005356398405782010-02-20T01:27:24.593-05:002010-02-20T01:27:24.593-05:00Great list. And great blog background color. I...Great list. And great blog background color. I'm partial to browns : )shrink on the couchhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13271891110211081990noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1636364949017025470.post-65600617265278755042010-02-19T17:07:07.781-05:002010-02-19T17:07:07.781-05:00Wow! Willow, for most of my life I've apologiz...Wow! Willow, for most of my life I've apologized for everything you listed in your 12 and more ~ then I turned 40 and stopped apologizing. Guess I grew up and learned to love myself. I won't apologize for that ;-)Juliehttp://wristonsingermany.blogspot.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1636364949017025470.post-39797255066235996432010-02-18T19:58:17.496-05:002010-02-18T19:58:17.496-05:00I am new to your blog. I won't, at this time,...I am new to your blog. I won't, at this time, deal with intros. But I will say this: I had an experience about a month ago where a blogger thought I offended her. Some people can become too sensitive over the net. I have not, nor will I ever, aplogize to her because I read somewhere that you have to be tough-skinned when dealing with people over the net. That is absolutely the truth. You are not going to please everybody. Someone hurt my feelings before, too. And I stopped blogging for almost two years. But I'v learned that everyone is not going to like what you say. I say to those people, "GET OVER YOURSELF."bobbybegood1https://www.blogger.com/profile/01471708916636552589noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1636364949017025470.post-87135933250519022682010-02-18T19:42:39.759-05:002010-02-18T19:42:39.759-05:00Had to have a recent Mother/Son heart to heart wit...Had to have a recent Mother/Son heart to heart with Son #4 about this same thing. He's got into the habit of including the Sorry word in almost all his sentences. Not like him at all my Braveheart boy. He had no idea it had crept into his vocab. so insidiously, & is now determined to banish it quick smart. Lovely post Willow.<br />Millie ^_^Milliehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15408461724832141163noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1636364949017025470.post-84715526876031909852010-02-18T17:49:56.046-05:002010-02-18T17:49:56.046-05:00My MIL apologizes for apologizing...
I love your...My MIL apologizes for apologizing... <br />I love your philosophy! And I'm sorry... but I LOVE Your background color! Reminds me of chocolate!McValhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00285808958951068897noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1636364949017025470.post-5284451907342046762010-02-18T13:27:37.523-05:002010-02-18T13:27:37.523-05:00What a fabulous post! I sometimes feel pressured t...What a fabulous post! I sometimes feel pressured to apologize for my passions or gut instincts (and saucy combacks when irritated) but you make me smile with this confidence boosting post. <br /> Marie @ <a href="http://lemondropvintage.blogspot.com/" rel="nofollow">Lemondrop ViNtAge</a> <br><a href="http://lemondropvintage.blogspot.com/2010/02/happy-new-chinese-new-year-heres-good.html" rel="nofollow">Happy Chinese New Year giveaway</a>Marie https://www.blogger.com/profile/00232112500545527374noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1636364949017025470.post-87367767867687317642010-02-17T23:51:09.605-05:002010-02-17T23:51:09.605-05:00Willow, it's so funny you posted that. I have...Willow, it's so funny you posted that. I have wondered for years what Henry Ford II meant when he said, "never apologize, never explain." I have thought of it often: at what times would it be appropriate or not...in what ways. I think many of us are messed up from our childhoods, but what can we do? And, I love your brownish background. It is warm.donna bakerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13507579686738843451noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1636364949017025470.post-55981640375328398702010-02-17T22:21:45.197-05:002010-02-17T22:21:45.197-05:00I agree on all 12 counts.
CatherineI agree on all 12 counts. <br /><br />Catherineceeceehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15962254736526651858noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1636364949017025470.post-7633986168999895772010-02-17T21:53:16.800-05:002010-02-17T21:53:16.800-05:00Wonderful and wise list to live by, beautiful frie...Wonderful and wise list to live by, beautiful friend!Rebeccahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04005793994542317964noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1636364949017025470.post-82998935803801442392010-02-17T21:52:38.599-05:002010-02-17T21:52:38.599-05:00Apologize? I do not know what the word means!Apologize? I do not know what the word means!Angie Muresanhttp://www.angiemuresan.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1636364949017025470.post-26712929494705354662010-02-17T20:14:05.888-05:002010-02-17T20:14:05.888-05:00I agree... it is very freeing...I agree... it is very freeing...Gwen Buchananhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13410235558740636534noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1636364949017025470.post-79024920585473270652010-02-17T19:01:46.424-05:002010-02-17T19:01:46.424-05:00I love the background color! :)I love the background color! :)Betsy Brockhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06807795605763246015noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1636364949017025470.post-28474914485469418482010-02-17T16:42:46.739-05:002010-02-17T16:42:46.739-05:00This post totally rocks it Willow! You have a wond...This post totally rocks it Willow! You have a wonderful way with words! And nothing to apologize for...your background color is classy, and clearly by the many comments...we're all able to read it just fine! ;Dkarenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16749464659476217501noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1636364949017025470.post-20649279990320169432010-02-17T16:11:52.224-05:002010-02-17T16:11:52.224-05:00your post so resonated with me and it has taken me...your post so resonated with me and it has taken me a long time to get to where I am today...never apologizing unless my heart tells me to...I too once had a woman, a very popular woman tell me she could not read my blog because of the background but I decided she was the one who needed to at least keep her mouth shut and just go away...not nice "sounding" [reading it back to myself here] but it's the truth.<br /><br />and I love your blog color!L'Adelaidehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10725322054223364858noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1636364949017025470.post-11175426678801586462010-02-17T14:55:43.059-05:002010-02-17T14:55:43.059-05:00I don't have time to read all the comments ., ...I don't have time to read all the comments ., and yes I almost apologized for that,<br /><br />this was awesome Willow. It is a huge issue with me. <br />Thank youAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15924061349390319473noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1636364949017025470.post-58550263821959542822010-02-17T14:41:15.459-05:002010-02-17T14:41:15.459-05:00Excellent post! I had to wrestle with this questio...Excellent post! I had to wrestle with this question just today on my blog. <br /><br />Apologizing so as to avoid conflict is never a good idea, I admit. I also think apologizing when you're feeling really guilty doesn't really serve any purpose - it just spreads that thick, yucky sticky guilt around to all involved. <br /><br />The best apologies are absolutely sincere, and without strings attached. As for my own situation today, I realized the blogger I was writing about is an actual person, not a symbol. I changed the title of my blog and tried to address her directly, something I was unable to do because I couldn't find contact information for her. <br /><br />Now I'll let it all go - that's the most important bit of apologizing, the release afterwards. Ahhhh ...<br /><br />Good for you Willow. You have nothing to apologize for!!Reya Mellickerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13076092659507965666noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1636364949017025470.post-55903524540101100712010-02-17T14:32:51.695-05:002010-02-17T14:32:51.695-05:00RIGHT ON! This is your blog and you can do what yo...RIGHT ON! This is your blog and you can do what you damned well wish - and what you wish is always great! LOVE your blog- it's perfect !Linda Suehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03070050388987072100noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1636364949017025470.post-3787927900882096832010-02-17T14:28:56.341-05:002010-02-17T14:28:56.341-05:00Amen, sister. I recently mulled this subject over ...Amen, sister. I recently mulled this subject over & decided to NOT apologize to someone who is utterly cruel. It was so much easier than I thought it would be.Susanhttp://www.unebricoleuse.blogspot.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1636364949017025470.post-35956232878633390592010-02-17T13:51:53.610-05:002010-02-17T13:51:53.610-05:00Loved this entry, Willow. Thank you.Loved this entry, Willow. Thank you.Lynettehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11179278237988549530noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1636364949017025470.post-23063844302807218722010-02-17T13:23:01.404-05:002010-02-17T13:23:01.404-05:00I should have had your list of nevers earlier in m...I should have had your list of nevers earlier in my life. They might have saved me some heartache. They certainly would have preserved my self respect. Learning to not apologize and feeling guilty, when I'd done nothing wrong, was a lesson that took me a long time to learn.steviewrenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14233066158555762167noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1636364949017025470.post-69271353710842545212010-02-17T13:13:08.050-05:002010-02-17T13:13:08.050-05:00I'm with you, Willow - although my own persona...I'm with you, Willow - although my own personal mantra is "no guilt". <br /><br />My own fundamentalist-steeped childhood served several purposes, one of which was to make me realize how much I hate the way people use guilt to make other people cave to their agenda.<br /><br />And so, in line with your "no apologies" rule, I have a "no guilt" rule. I do what I think is right at the time, and if I change my mind later, I do something else. I don't live looking backward and guilt-tripping. I don't ask anyone, whether spirit, deity, or human, to forgive me for being myself.<br /><br />Rock on, Willow.Marchelinehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11201825708442679157noreply@blogger.com